Just as a reminder this is an LDR blog, feel free to ask any questions. I was in one for 7 years between Germany and California. We got married on December 11th 2010 and have been transitioning to a new type of relationship. Hope we can encourage and help as best we know how!

For those of you looking for my weight loss blog is at senis130goal.tumblr.com Have been on the weight loss journey for a year and 3 months. Started two months after getting married. Again, if you have any questions, would be happy to help and encourage :)

May be a possibility at this point :(

We’ve transitioned pretty well into a routine as a married couple now. We do things together a lot still, and still have a hard time going places alone.

We started exercise together as a project, he’s gaining muscle, I’m losing weight and it’s working out great. What keeps us stuck is the job hunting…

He’s got a bachelors I have a nursing degree and its still hard :P. So we’re looking all over the states for jobs. He’s got one in Tennessee that might happen and I’ve got a possible one here in Cali….so we might be seeing a part 2 of our long distance relationship. I kinda hope not, but we’ve done it for 7 years before think we can do it again (not for 7 years though of course).

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105 lbs difference :)

Oh, and that guy right there..that’s my husband. He takes my progress photos. I took one of the dress loose and one where I bunch it around just to show difference.

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105 lbs down! Feeling really good right now. :)

In these photos I had already lost 20 lbs and decided to record the progress with photos. So highest weight was actually 265 (hence the 105 lost). I’ll be posting another progress shot in my wedding dress.

Long distance relationship- 7 year anniversary

We’ve been married for almost a year and a half. Just wanted to share a video I made for Lars after our 7th year of being in a LDR. Was the last time we celebrated an anniversary separately :)

This is my LDR (long distance relationship) blog that I started about a year or so ago. I’m haven’t been active on it but don’t have the heart to delete it.

My health blog is senis130goal.tumblr.com

If you’re on this blog for LDR, feel free to scroll through and if you have any questions ask!

Thank you all for the follow and hope we can encourage eachother! :)

A common fear in LDRs that I’ve been hearing about. Perfectly normal feeling that stinks, but it is normal.

But when your guy/girl steps off the plane/train/car/bus..etc and walks towards you to give you a hug…all of those doubts melt away.

If any of you in a LDR wants to as a question, please feel free to message me. I wish I had found tumblr while I was in one…might have made the 7 years a little easier.

My husband and I are doing great by the way. New experiences still and we are still attached at the hip. We have a hard time being split up..which I guess makes sense.

Again if you have any questions I’m here :)

SIDE NOTE:

I haven’t been on this blog in a long time. For those of you not in a LDR following me, I think you may want to check out senis130goal.tumblr.com that one is the one you were probably looking for :)

Take a breath! Be calm…anxiety is a big problem with LDRs, so I just want to post about how to overcome the panic attacks and learn to differentiate between a real problem and a created problem.

Sometimes in an LDR there are moments that get you thinking…this isn’t going to work, we’re going to break up, its just too hard. The first thing you should do is to figure out what is going on in the relationship that is making you think that its not working.

If its not working because he/she forgot to text you last night and hes late this morning…take a breather. Talk to him/her when they come on and you’ll find out what happened.

But, if its because for the past couple of months, the calls are fewer, the conversations are manly silence. Then its not time to panic its time to figure out how to fix the lack of communication.

If the problems is that he/she has been keeping things from you, and your gut is telling you that there is something going on. Then again, its time to have a serious conversation and talk. Then its time to figure out what you want to do after all the facts have been laid out.

What I’m trying to say is that panicing does nothing more than raise your stress level and cause you to make yourself feel ill. Panic is anxiety which will only make your mind think irrationally. It will cause you to jump to conclusions, to react in ways that you normally would not even consider. It short, it will make you crazy. Kind of like Bridezillas…do you really want to be associated that way? Guys your too, thats why on occasion we hear about groomzillas.

Again the best thing to do is take a breathe and focus on whether the fears are fact based or imaginary based. Then once you’ve figured it out, take the course needed. Fact based, means there is some communication that needs to happen between you and your partner.

Imaginary based means you need to figure out why all of a sudden you have these fears. It could be based on the things happening in the relationships around you. It could be that the relationship is going well and you fear that its “too good”. Whatever the worries are the best way to get rid of them is to talk to someone about it. It could be your partner, or maybe a best friend or parent. Whoever you can trust to tell your fears is the best person for the job.

I hope this helps and if anyone has any questions or needs a helping hand feel free to message me. All the best! :)

So lately I’ve been writting about things I read having to do with LDRs or I’ve been writting about how my relationship used to be. Just wanted to take the time to update those who may be wondering how the transition has been.

Its been interesting mainly positive, certainly never a dull moment.

We were accustomed to living under one roof but, in separate rooms, for two months at a time max. During that time we would stay up late, watching movies, trying to spend as much time as we could together before it was time to say good-night. We would get up early to make sure we could spend all our time together too. Going to the movies was a treat, because we got to be a “normal couple”.

What we do now: We go to bed fairly early (compared to when we were younger and visiting), and we get to talk at night which is similar to our late night conversations when we were apart. We get up early because we each have things we need to get done. We wish one another a good day and go our separate ways for a bit. Then home, we work out together, plan our weekends, play with our pup. It seems so…”normal” lol…

At first it was exciting, it was like we could do everything that other couples got to do. After a while though, I was starting to miss the travel. With him in Europe and me in the states our visits were adventures that we got to have together. I was scared for a while that maybe it was just the adventure that had been keeping us going…

But its been 8 months (on the 11th) and we are doing great. We have learned new ways of communicating, we’ve learned how to co-exist for longer than 2 months, we travel when we get a chance. We argue (but who doesn’t…and we did that in a LDR too). Overall, we are now a married couple who is just continuing to grow.

So to those in a LDR…just continue to grow and keep that love, communication strong. Those in a relationship in general, just know that there will always be room to grow and adapt.

Wishing all of you a happy relationship! :)